The Big Skinny Lie


The following is a copy of a note I posted on facebook on December 1, 2011. I fixed a few typos and added a few words that I forgot to type. Back then I didn’t have this blog. My opinion on this subject hasn’t changed and so I’m re-posting it.

There is a subject that has bothered me for many years. I can’t stay silent about this any longer. There is a big lie that is told everywhere. It’s in tv,movies,books,magazines,the internet,and probably any other information source you can think of.

Now keep in mind that this is my opinion, but it’s based heavily on my observations over the years. Remember, I’m a 24 year old man who happens to be honest to the point of offending people without meaning to because I will say exactly what I think. If this bothers you then forget you ever read it.

The big lie, is that women are supposed to be as skinny as a stick. For years, whenever I’ve been around women for very long, they always talk about losing weight and how they’re too fat. What I would like to know is who is setting the standard? Maybe some people may need to lose weight but on the whole, I think there is a danger that kills many.

Eating disorders such as anorexia or bulimia kill people. It’s hard for some people to understand why people get eating disorders, but when people are told a lie long enough, they will believe it. This is why, even though I’m no expert in this subject, I want to expose this lie for what it is. I’ve heard it too, but I don’t believe it.

It’s a bit odd that this mostly affects women. I know there are men with eating disorders, but in general, nobody makes a big deal about how men look. Who cares if men are tall,short,skinny,fat,hairy, or bald. I’m sure the majority has figured out that men are just plain ugly, but God, and some women can love them anyway.

But for women, people always make a big deal about how they look. I’m not sure why this is but it has got to stop. My message to the women of the world is that they can stop starving themselves, dying their hair, wearing high heels, and all sorts of ridiculous stuff that God never had in mind when he made them.

There are some things I want to point out that will hopefully show people why this lie continues.

It’s a money making scheme. People tell women that they’re fat to cheat them out of their money. First, they try to sell them silly weight loss products that won’t work, especially if you don’t really have weight to lose, second, they make all the women’s clothes really small so that the women will think they are fatter than they really are, then, when the women try to lose weight, they end up starving themselves on silly diets which screw up their metabolisms so that their body is in starvation mode and stores fat. Then of course they have to buy bigger clothes. In this way the clothesmakers get more money. As if that isn’t bad enough, people write silly weight loss books and magazines to get people to buy them. Honestly, can’t people use their brains? We have more information and materials that are supposed to help people lose weight and yet, people, both men and women are fatter every year. It’s not working.

Another part of the lie is that men are attracted to thin women. Of course that’s the lie most men will probably tell you. Maybe some are, but honestly, I think that some of those men just want to keep women smaller than they are because then they can overpower them and abuse them. I could be wrong about this but my ex-father wanted to prove he was superior to my mom by using his strength against her so I’m sensitive about that subject.

If I had a wife, I wouldn’t want to worry about her blowing away in the wind or some man attacking her. If I had a choice, I’d want her to be tall enough,strong enough, and heavy enough to beat up anyone who might try to hurt her or our children.

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Defining All


Defining All

I was having a talk with my mom about exactly what parts of the Bible mean when they say the word “all”.

Take for example, this commonly used verse from Romans.

Romans 3:23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.

Who exactly is all? Is it all humans? Is it all creatures on earth? The solar system? Universe? Does it include God himself? Even if you define what sin is, the all is a complete mystery.

The key is given in verse 9

3:9 What then? Are we better off? Certainly not, for we have already charged that Jews and Greeks alike are all under sin,

Since the context of the chapter is talking about two groups of people, the jews and the greeks, my mom had suggested that maybe the English word “both” would make more sense than “all”. For example, we would say that apples and oranges are both fruit.

Either way, someone could use these verses to say that both jews and greeks have sinned, but to say that all the jews or all the greeks have sinned is simply not true. Babies who have not been born yet can’t really do much of anything. They can’t do anything which would be considered good or bad by any standard. By this logic, it only makes sense that this “all” doesn’t include the unborn.

Another example two sources that say that God created all things.

John 1:1 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was fully God. 1:2 The Word was with God in the beginning. 1:3 All things were created by him, and apart from him not one thing was created that has been created.

Revelation 4:11 “You are worthy, our Lord and God, to receive glory and honor and power, since you created all things, and because of your will they existed and were created!”

When I think about it, I have a problem with God creating “all” things. Does this include Mosquitos, Cockroaches, Spiders, or Flies? I think not.

A year ago I decided that God can’t be all knowing or all powerful. I found a lack of support for that in the Bible and it contradicts free will. I don’t disagree that God has more power and knowledge than any human does. It’s the “all” part that I disagree with.

Gender and Religion


Gender and Religion

As long as I can remember, men and women have always been treated differently. As a child I was extremely confused by this fact. Back in the days when I was in public elementary school for a short time I always wondered why the people with long hair were called girls and went to a different bathroom. Now I’m an adult and I still have trouble understanding why men and women are treated differently when there is no need. I can understand why it’s often better to have men like me who work at HyVee bring in the carts, based only on the physical strength advantage, but often they are separated in a way that makes no sense such as the fact that men are expected to know everything about cars or sports and women are expected to be silent,stupid,submissive,weak,skinny, and blonde.

At least in the United States of America, women are finally allowed to work jobs and vote. I hope that as time goes on, the social differences between men and women will erase completely. However, I believe the largest enemy which hinders this progress is religion.

Since I grew up a Christian, I’ve read a lot of the Bible. I will quote stuff from the Bible to show exactly the link between Christianity and the treatment of women. Other religions can be equally sexist but I’m speaking from my own knowledge and experience.

Unless otherwise stated, I’m quoting from the netbible.

First, it’s clearly stated in Genesis that men and women are both created in God’s image.

Genesis 1:26 Then God said, “Let us make humankind in our image, after our likeness, so they may rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move on the earth.”
1:27 God created humankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them, male and female he created them.

Second, it’s obvious that both the first man and woman are made of dirt. God formed the man out of dirt.

Genesis 2:7 The Lord God formed the man from the soil of the ground  and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being.

Then he took part of the man’s side and made a woman. If the man was dirt then the woman was also dirt.

Genesis 2:21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep, and while he was asleep, he took part of the man’s side and closed up the place with flesh. 2:22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the part he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 2:23 Then the man said, “This one at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; this one will be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”

Also, my favorite verse in the new testament shows that all Christians are equal no matter their gender,race, or whether they are a slave or free.

Galatians 3:28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female – for all of you are one in Christ Jesus.

Just these few verses I’ve quoted can easily explain how I feel about the equality of men and women. I agree with them completely, but more importantly, if the Bible is “God’s word”, then it should explain how God feels about it.

But, unlike most Christians, I don’t believe that the WHOLE Bible is the word of God. It’s actually not even one book but a collection of 66 different books. The authors of some of these books isn’t even entirely known or stated within the books themselves. Since there were a variety of authors, they had different opinions on women than I do.

Below are the most commonly used verses used to keep women from doing anything.

1 Corinthians 14:34 the women  should be silent in the churches, for they are not permitted to speak. Rather, let them be in submission, as in fact the law says. 14:35 If they want to find out about something, they should ask their husbands at home, because it is disgraceful for a woman to speak in church.

1 Timothy 2:9 Likewise the women are to dress in suitable apparel, with modesty and self-control. Their adornment must not be with braided hair and gold or pearls or expensive clothing, 2:10 but with good deeds, as is proper for women who profess reverence for God. 2:11 A woman must learn quietly with all submissiveness. 2:12 But I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man. She must remain quiet. 2:13 For Adam was formed first and then Eve. 2:14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman, because she was fully deceived, fell into transgression. 2:15 But she will be delivered through childbearing, if she continues in faith and love and holiness with self-control.

Those verses are used by Christians today to control how women dress, make them submissive and quiet, and forbid women to teach men. I cannot accept these statements to be part of the written word of God. It was obviously written by a misogynistic man.

If my mother had been “quiet” and hadn’t taught me(she taught a man!) the Bible and about Jesus, I would indeed probably be an entirely opposite person of the one I am today. When I was 4 years old, I asked Jesus to come into my heart at night while everyone else was asleep. Back then I knew very little about the bad parts of the Bible, and I don’t remember even knowing about hell. Somehow, with some help from my mother, I had some general idea that Jesus died for us because he loved us and that I needed him in my heart.

Now, over 20 years later, I don’t really think that I understand more about Jesus than I did back then, but I can at least see that I’m different than other people. I don’t share the same sexism and racism that other people do. For now I can thank God for that. It’s the best evidence I have that there really is a difference in my heart.

I don’t see how someone can claim to love God while at the same time they can hate women,jews,blacks,gays,muslims, or any other group of people. If you find people who call themselves “Christians” who act like this, please don’t assume that I’m one of them. I try to love even my enemies as Jesus taught.

Matthew 5:43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor’ and ‘hate your enemy.’ 5:44 But I say to you, love your enemy and pray for those who persecute you, 5:45 so that you may be like your Father in heaven, since he causes the sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. 5:46 For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Even the tax collectors do the same, don’t they? 5:47 And if you only greet your brothers, what more do you do? Even the Gentiles do the same, don’t they? 5:48 So then, be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.

Bloons Tower Defense 5


Today, instead of ranting about something serious and depressing like I usually do, I will write about the reasons I like the game Bloons Tower Defense 5. It’s probably my favorite free online flash game.

Normally, I’m the type that will get hooked on a certain game and play it exclusively for months. Because of this, I tend to avoid trying new games because I don’t like to start something and not finish it. Ironically, I choose games which never end such as Harvest Moon, Runescape, or Final Fantasy style games. They never end because there is always something new to try or some way to improve the way I win.

Bloons Tower Defense 5 is one of the games on ninjakiwi.com . Since it requires an account to save progress and upgrades, I normally don’t get involved with it. However, I started playing the other Bloons Tower Defense games which didn’t even have the save option. By the time the 4th game came out, I was already addicted to these silly games of popping balloons with dart throwing monkeys. So now I have a ninjawiki account and my info is saved and loaded whenever I play the 4th or 5th game in the series.

The 5th game is beyond dispute, the most addicting game in the series so far. It has more towers and more different types of balloons than any other game before it. What really sets it apart from the other games though is the “monkey money” which is awarded as a prize for passing n tracks on different difficulties and for completing the daily challenges. The monkey money allows you to buy the special agents which can really make the game easy if you use them right. It has a lot of other uses such as the specialty buildings that allow certain tower types to be stronger. It’s essential for the daily challenges because usually the tower selection is limited. I will probably never be able to finish everything in the game because it’s constantly updated.

Valentine’s Day (by Judena Klebs)


I have a theory about Valentine’s Day. No one really knows what to do with that day because hardly any one has a spouse or a  date that they’re not mad at most of the time but they know that if they don’t pretend to love them at Valentine’s Day that person will be even more mad and stuff candy hearts down their throat until they choke.  They also feel the pressure to spend hundreds of dollars on fresh flowers so that they will not be smashed over the head with the large vase that was positioned in plain view as a hint. There are naked babies with bow and arrows decorating every building. Anything you order from a restaurant is heart-shaped. If you are single, people look at you at parties as though you poked your head out of a casket at your own funeral. You see lips kissing and then realize it is just a decoration on a glass window or door. Where is the rest of the person? One must try not to think about what this holiday must have been about when the first mushy person tried to celebrate it. Why did it become traditional to give chocolate candies to the woman you just fought with because you insulted her about being overweight? Who started the tradition of checking couple’s memories about what kind of sausage they had for breakfast the morning before they first met? I don’t know about you, but Valentine’s Day strikes me as a very mysterious holiday. The only one that seems more useless is Groundhog Day!

Death


Death

As far as I know, everyone knows that they will die eventually. Often though, people don’t talk about it. Lately it’s been on my mind a lot.

The reason people avoid this subject is most likely because there are disagreements on what happens after death.

Some people believe that people either go to heaven or hell. This is the general idea taught in the Bible, and it’s the one that I currently think is true. The most confusing debate is the reason people go to either of these places. Some think that good people go to heaven and bad people go to hell. That’s actually not what the Bible teaches nor can anybody agree on what good or bad deeds someone would have to do to deserve eternal reward or punishment. The main lesson of the new testament is that Jesus somehow paid the price for our sins by dying on the cross and that by believing this we go to heaven. Even as I write it I must admit that it doesn’t make sense to my brain, but I just wanted to define this before I mention the two alternate ideas about what happens after death.

The next idea is reincarnation. That generally means that after one life ends, then another begins in some other type of body. This new body could be another human, animal, plant, or maybe something else. I don’t really think that this would be a good idea unless someone could choose what they would be reborn as. If I could choose, I would probably want to be some kind of flying bird.

The next idea is oblivion, the idea that after death, people just don’t exist anymore. This idea is probably the easiest to understand and certainly sounds a lot better than either going to hell or being reborn as a cockroach. Of course some would rather go to heaven, but at least if you don’t exist, then you don’t care.

So far, those are the current theories I know of that people say happen after death.

I think that the way people live their lives is directly affected by what they think death is. For example, if you believe that someone doesn’t exist after they die, then what difference does it make how long they live or what they do. If you think that someone is doomed to go to hell if they haven’t accepted Jesus as their savior, then naturally you want to tell them about him before they die.