When something is independent, it means that it is not closely attached, connected, or relevant to something else. There is nothing wrong with dependence. It is a fact of life that people depend on each other for many reasons.
I, however, work toward becoming more independent from the thoughts of others. I learn from the actions and words of other people, but I do not want to become a clone of any one person.
This is exactly why I often feel the need to be left alone. I do my writing when I am alone. I can sometimes get irritated if I am interrupted while I am reading or writing something. This makes relating to other people very difficult because they have no idea what I am doing. I often wonder what is the most polite way to get someone to stop talking and yet at the same time not make them feel like they are completely irrelevant to me.
There is a time when some people are irrelevant. They choose to ignore me and so I take the hint and do the same for them. I assume they are following the golden rule.
I know that I cannot continue to depend on people because they often reject me or they die. This is why it is sometimes relevant for me to have my own thoughts, emotions, and finances. In this way, I can be a separate person who is independent or irrelevant from some of the choices other people make.