I found a person named Marti Breskin who identifies as pro-choice. However, she had some very interesting advice on what society can do to reduce abortion.
“I believe abortion can be effectively reduced (and the rate IS actually decreasing) if society does the following:
1) De-stigmatizing single motherhood
2) Not excusing men from fatherhood by eliminating the burden of disproportional responsibility for childcare and challenging the stereotype that men are naturally poor at it
3) Assuring women and enshrining in law that their health and life is not less important than that of their fetus, because women who want children but may face life-threatening complications with their pregnancies will terminate if doctors are going to let them die (or will terminate if they know they will be vilified and shunned for choosing a life-saving abortion rather than sacrificing themselves)
4) Addressing the vast and endemic poverty in our nation because pregnancy, birth, and child-rearing are so expensive that even women who want children are often hesitant to carry a pregnancy to term when they are not financially stable, if not well-off
5) Lobbying for better, cheaper, and more expansive health care, universal coverage, and access to cheap or free prenatal care
6) Promote home birthing as a viable option to those who want it
7) Supporting a vast array of legislative and non-governmental aid measures that help poor mothers and families clothe, feed, house, and educate their children so that she can be confident that carrying to term will not negatively affect her life or that of her other children
8) Supporting better funding, resources, and support structures for the disabled
9) Acknowledging that it is wrong to force or manipulate women into giving up their children for adoption (or abortion), but still working to make the process easier, as well as de-stigmatizing giving your child up for adoption
10) Re-shaping society so that women need not choose between children and the various forms of fulfillment currently offered to the child-free
11) Demanding paid maternal (and paternal) leave, flexible work schedules, and affordable or free childcare. If a woman has to fear that she will lose her job (or not get hired in the first place) as a result of having children, then she has a strong incentive to terminate any unplanned pregnancy that threatens her livelihood and creative fulfillment in her profession
12) Mandating and providing quality, comprehensive sex education that teaches how pregnancy happens, and all the various and diverse ways of how to avert it (i.e. not just condoms)
13) Acknowledging valid sexual desires and sexual rights of our youth, while still educating them about self-esteem, and providing and adequately funding support structures and necessary programs that are often cut, like sports, music, and art”
Her next comment was
“Many pro-choicers would agree with me on all of this. We never *want* women to have abortions. Facing an unplanned or unwanted pregnancy is difficult, and the decision she makes after she finds out is even harder. Women deserve all the support, educational information and services they could possibly have, even if they want to keep the child”
This is not at all what I had expected. She is not pro-abortion because she actually wants society to make it easier for women who want their children to live. I agree with most, if not all, of these things she mentions. I want to eliminate all the things that cause people to feel like abortion is the only “choice”. A true choice would require there to be at least two options.
I have been confused because some people call themselves pro-choice, but they try to silence anyone who says that abortion is morally wrong. Marti didn’t argue with me. She just communicated!